2 Weeks

Today, Harper and Allie are two weeks old! A lot has happened since 10/15/10.  They are so snuggly and adorable and truly a joy.  They look very different and have unique personalities.  Allie is our wee little one.  She likes to stick out her long tongue and make cheerio lips.  Harper is our chunker and makes a million different faces.  She will look utterly disgusted at the scene around her and then she will break into a huge smile.  They say smiles at this age are just from gas, but I am skeptical.  Michael believed that until they started smiling when he bobbled them around. Harper is awake more often and just took over an hour to put back to sleep, I think because she just wanted to play.  I ended up feeding her twice in a two hour span, so now their schedules are out of sync.  Not fun at 4 in the morning.  It takes Harper 5 minutes to down the same bottle that takes Allie 15-20 minutes.

 

Piggy Harper

Foodie Allie

If I did not alternate which sides they feed on, I would be lopsided.

We've had several outings in their first two weeks. They sleep like rocks through all our walks in Piedmont Park,  through a shopping trip to Pottery Barn Kids and Hobby Lobby (the nursery is still being decorated), and through their first church service.  Allie had to make a second Pediatrician visit to make sure she did not drop too much weight.  The doctor was proud of me because she went from 4 lbs. 11 oz to 5 lbs. 1 oz in three days.  Harper weighed 5 lbs. 11 oz last Friday, and I would imagine that she is over 6 lbs now.

We feel so blessed by these little girls.  Thank you so much to anyone who prayed for them to figure out breastfeeding because I think we have really turned a corner. I don't have to fight them for thirty minutes before they eat.  Such a relief!

The Birth Story

Harper and Allie have been home for one week now. It has been one of the most blessed, tiring, and rewarding weeks of my life.  I feel so blessed when I think about how smoothly the delivery went.  So many of the nurses could not believe that I had the girls without a C-section and even my doctor seemed amazed that Baby B's (Harper's) head fell right into place after Allie arrived.

A little bit about the birthing experience, my apologies if this is too much information, but I want to be able to remember the events myself:
Pitocin (the labor-inducing drug) really didn't start until 9 am because after 3 different nurses tried to insert my IV, they called in the "IV team" who was one lady -- who finally succeeded.  I've got the bruises to show for this. Dr. Knoer tried to break my water and the second time he tried, around noon, I think, he was successful- what a gush!   I wanted to feel some of the contractions, so ended up waiting until around 2pm to get the epidural. And man did I feel them!  I've thought that it would be cool to have a natural birth, you know, experience what women since creation have experienced, but an hour of painful contractions cured me of that notion!  After the epidural, I took a nice little nap until Dr. Knoer checked me again at 4:00 to learn that I was fully dilated and ready to have these babies.  The nurses took down my epidural a bit so that I could feel the contractions enough to push and I was wheeled into the OR around 4:30.  There were at least 10 people in that very bright room: 2 nurses for each baby, 2 nurses for me, 2 anesthesiologists in case a C-section had to be performed, Dr. Knoer, and of course, Michael.  I felt quite exposed in the stirrups but from the beginning of my hospital stay I had begun to get over any sense of modesty.  I was shaking pretty badly, which everyone said was normal, but besides that, I was just excited and ready to push. 

After what seemed like only a few minutes to me, but was closer to an hour, little Allie was here!  I really only got to see her right when she came out and when the nurse briefly brought her over for us to look at.  10 minutes later, and maybe only 3 more contractions of pushing, Harper arrived, too!  Dr. Knoer said, "Here, hold this!" and Harper girl was squealing and squirming on my belly.  The whole thing was awesome.  Then Harper was whisked away and the most disappointing thing of the birth was that I didn't get to see or hold either of them for maybe an hour.  Michael was amazing; completely there to comfort me and giving me every report he could on the girls while they dealt with the afterbirth and stitches for me.  Honestly, delivering the placenta and Dr. Knoer kneading my stomach afterward was far more painful than the birth. 

Michael and I were flooded with emotions watching the nurses wash our babies and run all the tests in the transitional nursery. We felt so blessed!  Our families did some detective work at the nurses station and found out they had been born and busted in the room saying it was unfair to keep them waiting.  But I hadn't even held my babies, so they had to.

You can't describe how it feels to hold your baby for the first time.  It took some time for it to sink in that they were mine and my life was forever changed.  The family gathered in our recovery room, we announced the names, drank champagne, and then they briefly got to hold them before our families were shooed out for the first attempt at breastfeeding.  I had one nurse on each side trying to get the babies to latch.  I'm sure it was a sight.

Breastfeeding has certainly been the hardest part of being a mom.  Allie sometimes cries and roots around for 45 minutes before latching on.  We joke that she is our foodie because the dining atmosphere has to be just right and then she slowly takes in each taste.  It makes for long nights.  Eventually I will feed these girls in tandem, but so far I've only been successful 3 or 4 times.  I've given up trying for now.  Harper is my little piggy and usually latches right on, though sometimes she picks up some tricks from her older sister and takes forever!  Pray they would get this eating thing down.

I'll post more about the first week soon.  Just wanted summarize the birth and let everyone know that we are thriving.  I absolutely love my new job as a momma!

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More pictures, including Allie & Harper Go to the Park

I figured out how to send pictures directly from my phone to a Picasa album.

I realize that others may not be as enamored of my babies as I am, but I'm not letting that stop me from posting more pictures. I'm telling myself that my awareness of my own self-indulgence (posting more pictures) is separating me from those parents who become so absorbed with their children that they can't talk about anything else. That's fair, right?

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More pictures

I've posted an album in Picasa for anyone who wants to see more pictures.

Welcome Home, Babies!

We took Allie and Harper home at noon today.

On Day Two, they've started to express themselves a little more than during their first 24 hours. They both can cry, and a sure way to hear some baby screams is to unwrap one from her warm swaddling. They don't like to be exposed.

Harper grabbed her pacifier the first time she was offered it, and now she's rarely without it. When she sleeps she spits it out about every 15 minutes, then gives a little yell. If you put it back in her mouth, she dozes off again.

Allie sucked on hers for a while, but she likes to put her tongue on the roof of her mouth, which pushes the pacifier out of her mouth. She doesn't seem to need it to keep quiet and peaceful though, like Harper does, and overall she's the less fitful sleeper. They already have their own personalities, which eerily resemble what we expected from how they acted in the womb.

Our families left this afternoon except for Kakhi's mom, who is staying for a few nights. Then my mom will come help us. Doing this with just the two of us would be difficult.

They're almost two days old!

Here are pictures. Babies getting ready to leave hospital:

Kakhi and babies about to leave hospital:

Our family at home:

Meet Allie and Harper Wakefield!

Alloway Dayton Wakefield
Born October 15, 2010, at 5:28 PM.
5 lb. 3 oz., 18 1/4 inches.



Harper Brooks Wakefield
Born October 15, 2010, at 5:39 PM.
5 lb. 13 oz., 19 1/2 inches.

All four names are from our family trees. Alloway and Dayton are from Kakhi's family, and Harper and Brooks are from mine. We had a fun time looking through family histories and tracing our families back through generations.

Here's an overview of the rest of the delivery.

Between 4:00 and 4:30 yesterday, the nurses wheeled Kakhi into the operating room. I had to wait a few minutes for them to set things up, and then they retrieved me to help (ha) with the delivery. Can't say I've ever seen anything like babies being born.

I gather from the nurses' reactions that it was a relatively easy delivery. Most twins are delivered via C-Section, and even when they're not, babies aren't always cooperative. Kakhi had about two minutes between contractions once she started pushing, and it only took about 8-10 contractions (45 minutes, maybe?) to get Allie's head out. From there it was all downhill.

The rest of Allie followed shortly, I got to cut the umbilical cord, and then they whisked her away to be tested and checked and weighed and cleaned. We didn't have much time to look at her because Harper still had to be born! But it only took another 10 minutes before her head emerged, and when the rest of her came out, the doctor tossed her onto Kakhi's belly and said "here, hold this." So the first we saw of Harper was a wriggling, crying, messy baby sitting on Kakhi's suddenly not-huge belly. Then they whisked her away, too.

I spent the next hour or so bouncing between the babies and Kakhi, who did an amazing

job with the birthing. She was walking a little within a couple of hours of the birth, and she seems on the path to a quick recovery.

We have moved to a post-birth room, and we get to see the babies whenever we want. They haven't expressed much interest in eating yet, but the nurses tell us that babies don't usually start to eat very well until 24 hours after birth. The hospital runs lots of tests on them. Too many rules and regulations caused by too many lawsuits.

If everything goes as expected, we'll all come home tomorrow, and then the real fun begins!

Here are some pictures:

Above: Allie on the left, Harper on the right.

Above: Harper on the left, Allie on the right.

Babies coming

We are in the labor/delivery room waiting for Kakhi to get so close to birthing the blueberries that they move us to the operating room. Standard procedure is to deliver all twins in the OR, just in case there are some tangled-up type complications and the doctors need to do an emergency C-section. Of course, we're hoping that won't happen. The worst-case scenario is to have to recover from one natural birth and one C-section -- no fun.

Anyway, I've been asking the nurses and doctors all kinds of questions. They've commented on how I'm more inquisitive than most dads-to-be. I took that as a compliment.

She is anesthetized and napping through contractions. Not quite as dramatic as the movies. I think we're still a few hours away, but it feels like things are moving quickly. We'll try to keep everyone updated.

Here are a couple of pictures.

Last night we had one last pre-babies date, and here is a before-dinner picture:



By the way, we went to Murphy's in Virginia Highland, which was great. The highlighted dish is my shrimp & grits. I don't often order shrimp & grits because I never find anything that compares to City Grocery's (in Oxford, MS) -- which means I usually come away disappointed. But last night's were a different style, and I really liked them. Roux-based instead of cream-based, I think. I would order the dessert trio again, and I might go back just for the flatbread appetizer.

But enough about food. Time to focus on babies.

One last belly picture: